When I wake up and check my Instagram feed like its the morning new paper, I find myself bombarded with posts of inspiration, quotes about success and #girlbossess who are #blessed with their #goalsaf lives. This is the first thing that hits my brain and thousands of others every morning even before the coffee kicks in, yet does it really motivate us for success?
Success is something that is defined differently person to person and varies greatly between each of us. As a determined, energetic and stubborn individual who won’t take no for an answer, I refuse for my life and career to not be classed as a success. I want to look back one day and be proud of all that I have achieved and I’ll be honest, I set the bar high!
I have spent the past 24 years of my life being utterly confused by where I want to go, yet have provided myself with a vague direction through two degrees and my professional work. Now, for the first time, I know where I want to go and who I want to be… but how to get there?
In this social media saturated society I find it increasingly difficult to remember that everyone else struggles too, and that I am not alone. Having gone through a period of uncertainty recently, leaving a stable job in pursuit of my newly found goals, taking unpaid positions to gain experience and starting out afresh in a totally new industry, I have been seriously questioning if I am ever going to be successful. Yet, after some long, sleepless nights of soul searching, I have begun to realise that there are millions of others who feel the same way.
Millennials and ‘Generation Z’ are facing a society, employment market and economy which has never been seen before, and with so much pressure for everyone to define who they are as an individual, be happy, relax, see friends, progress at work, be mindful, save money, have a relationship, get fit, eat healthily, look after yourself… *GASP!* It is a wonder we keep our heads screwed on at all!
Something that I would like to share though from my ponderings, is that success is not something that you can definitively reach one day. As life progresses, the goal posts shift, priorities change and new factors are introduced as old ones die away. (For example, when I was a student I considered to be successful in life if I did my laundry once a week!) Success is something that we can strive for to push ourselves, yet the true meaning of it is to be happy along the way.
Take life one step at a time. I am far from the end of my journey, still driving to launch my career, yet I am happy with where I am right now. If you stop and take stock, you may be surprised by all that you do have which can class your life as a success. Family, friends, confidence, support, LOVE and countless other measures by which happiness can be derived and thus, by gradual progression and development, success can appear without you even realising.